A Conversation of Despair

One of the difficulties we have is battling inner demons that block our ability to see how much people love us and how much love there is around us. It is not news that there are people who suffer a great amount of depression and blockage. Maybe you at some point have vibrated low and felt sadness. Maybe you at some point thought about how the world would be without you... The point I want to make about this post is that there is love for souls who are in despair even more so in the afterlife than here on Earth. For some, when physically alive, they are unable to feel their own love for their family, friends, and vise versa. There may be conditions, factors, or stressors that make them unable to experience a great love. When passed, they will realize the full extent of their own love and the love around them. From this perspective this is a great break through. Suicide and death by despair is not an answer but we must understand that it is not the end. We must understand that a person's soul was in so much pain that suicide and death was the only option. A permanent option and there is nothing we can do to take that back. The healing begins for both the remaining loved ones and for that individual.

There needs to be a lot of conversation around suicide and death by despair in the Hmong community. Many people who have taken their lives were unable to feel love or express love because they were in a place of darkness. This place of darkness involves depression, it involves blocked thoughts and feelings towards love and hope. We must understand that souls vibrate not on a constant level but a fluctuation. We sometimes vibrate lower and so we feel sad. For some, they remain in this low frequency. As a spiritual person I must understand that the darkest points may become the starting point of a new direction toward light. I call this spiritual evolution. We are energies that want to evolve and want to seek out love vibrations. Suicide, then, is not a sin and there is no punishment. Instead, I believe there is the greatest compassion and love for people who take their lives in despair. These are the souls that need the most love; these are the souls that need the most love and self healing. Rather you believe in God or Hmong shamanism, there is help and love in the spiritual realm, in Heaven, or the afterlife... These souls are never abandoned, forgotten, or punished but instead are offered love, is gifted with help and given light to see their way home..

Spiritual evolution is when a soul finds their own meaning of peace and love through their own journey afterwards. As with the physical world, the spiritual realm involves growth of souls and spirits as well. As a Hmong shaman, I believe there is help even in the after life so souls can evolve and find love, feel love, see love, experience it, and for that soul to find closure from one life to the next. I say this from a place of love and compassion; for those who have lost someone to suicide, they can feel your every thought, your every word, your every pain and sadness. They know how much you love them, they can feel your vibration. Please know that it is not your fault and your loved one is free, they're happy. They will be going home and you'll see them when your time comes.

All living things want to love and be loved. Love comes in so many forms and in so many ways. Give love and show love so that a soul doesn't have to go through spiritual evolution. Check in on someone randomly, regularly, or just let them know your are thinking of them. Let them know you care and that you can feel their frequency. Send them love and positive vibe. Hug them. Hold their hand. Let them cry and let them know they can just be themselves around you. There must be love and compassion for what ever struggle someone is going through. Even in the afterlife there is the greatest amount of care and help for souls in despair. They are not abandoned. They are not forgotten.

-tfl